You can spend a lot of time thinking about that special someone. But what if that someone is already married to another person, or you are?
It seems to be accepted in our society that people are unable to control such thoughts and feelings. It's thought that at at best, people hopelessly attracted to one another's spouses can only try desperately not to act on those impulses. At worst, they will indulge them. However, there is another alternative. The answer lies in a deeper understanding of God and His love for man, His spiritual image and likeness. God's child is already complete in every way. This means that each one of us is surrounded by true love now. We do not need another human being to give us this love. In fact, genuine love in friendships, marriage, family, is the outcome of God's love for us. God gives us the evidence of this love in practical ways that allow us to feel His care each day. It may be found in the smile of a child, a joke shared by a coworker, the beauty of a sunset. We see these evidences of divine Love in our lives and realize that His love is pure, uplifting, and good.
The affection that we share with others must reflect God's love. It must be pure, not leading to hurt, anger, or remorse. It cannot be party to adultery. Science and Health describes "infidelity to the marriage covenant" as "the social scourge of all races, 'the pestilence that walketh in darkness,... the destruction that wasteth at noonday' The commandment, 'Thou shalt not commit adultery' " the book continues, "is no less imperative than the one, 'Thou shalt not kill.'"
Science and Health, p. 56 And Christ Jesus indicated that adultery has to do with what we are thinking as well as what we are doing: "Whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart."
Matt. 5:28
