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Separation without pain

From the June 2023 issue of The Christian Science Journal

Originally published in German

Breaking up with someone who has been important to you can bring a sense of loss, grief, hurt, and sometimes anger. But these feelings are not inevitable. Contrary to what society suggests, separation can be a positive thing when we look at it through the lens of Truth. I’d like to tell you how this worked for me.

I was in a multiyear relationship with my boyfriend and had great plans for the future. However, it gradually became apparent that something wasn’t right. Things had happened that shook the relationship severely, and though we’d made the effort to work through the difficulties, there hadn’t been much harmony between us for a while. Finally, we had to face the question of whether to break up. 

This prospect pulled the rug out from under me. I began to feel sad, helpless, and hopeless. Without realizing it, I had become emotionally dependent on my boyfriend. Suddenly I was afraid of not being able to survive on my own, and the fear grew. I began wondering, “Why does this scenario look so unbearable to me?” 

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