WHAT CAN WE DO when disagreements become intense? What rules can we follow in such situations?
The Bible is a good source for direction! Here's one example in Genesis: Abraham's and Lot's herdsmen had problems, and Abraham's response was to speak with Lot and say, "Let there be no strife, I pray thee, between me and thee, and between my herdmen and thy herdmen; for we be brethren." Gen.13:8. Abraham then allowed Lot to choose the land he wished to inhabit, and Abraham went elsewhere.
I figured my parents would see things as I did.
